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Community Grief Ritual

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Community Grief Ritual

A place to honor and give expression to personal and collective grief - tears, rage, mourning, sadness, numbness, pain - it is all welcome.

Grief is a given in this life, and there are many gateways to grief - death, loss, change, divorce, betrayal, unrealized dreams, places in ourselves that have not known love, what we expected and did not receive, ancestral grief, trauma, the sorrows of the world and the reality that everything we love, we will lose.

Grief is a natural part of the human experience, and meant to be experienced with others, communally not in isolation; it is intimately connected to our love and gratitude and can deepen us if we allow it. In modern culture, many of us have forgotten how to grieve. Metabolizing grief into a gift of beauty to the other world is a skill and a practice we can cultivate and tend. It softens our hearts and opens us to our humanity with more capacity to respond to the world around us with compassion and wisdom. The world needs us to respond to the crises and calls of the times with our full and open hearts. 

I have had the great fortune to work with Francis Weller, Sobonfu Some and Malidoma Some, as well as training in related work with Joanna Macy (Despair and Empowerment/The Work that Reconnects), Deena Metzger (Grief into Vision) and Martin Prechtel (Grief and Praise). I am honored to offer this work with a strong team of beautiful support.  

Currently, two of the four annual rituals are open to all genders and the others for women identified folks. We do our best to hold them around the equinoxes and solstices. 


Open to all genders. 

Saturday March 24 9:30am - 5:30pm

Arroyo Hondo Preserve - a beautiful, indoor rustic barn 20 miles north of Santa Barbara

Cost: $50-$100*

*Contact me if you have any questions, concerns or financial constraints. No one will be turned away for lack of funds. 

More details and a list of what to bring will be sent on registration. 

To register or inquire, please email

Upcoming Grief Ritual: June 2 (Women identified folks only)